In today’s video, I’m going to share why “mindset work” doesn’t always work for certain people, the very important step most people don’t realize they’re missing, plus a simple 3-step process to shift your approach to mindset work so you can build lasting, sustainable self-confidence. Figuring out how to build self-confidence can feel like an
Do you ever hear yourself say, “Sorry, quick question…” or “Sorry to bother you, but…” before you ask for what you need? Maybe you know you apologize too much, and you wish you could stop saying “sorry” before asking questions. The habit of saying “sorry” can sound polite on the surface, but most of the
I’m guessing you’ve heard of trauma, and maybe you can even think of some examples. Have you heard of “little t” trauma, though? It’s something that affects tons of people, and many of them don’t even realize it. If you’ve ever thought, “It wasn’t that bad, so why am I still affected?” you’re not alone.
A lot of people with perfectionistic patterns genuinely believe they simply have high standards (I know I used to). Sometimes, they’re right. However, when you look more closely, what often shows up underneath the “high standards” label is intense stress, harsh self-criticism, and a constant sense that you and your work aren’t good enough. Perfectionism
If you find yourself over-apologizing for everything, you’re not alone. You might apologize when you: Maybe you even apologize again, after you’ve already apologized, simply because your brain keeps replaying the moment and you can’t seem to let it go. Over-apologizing can look like being considerate, but it often comes from a very different place.
You can know you need boundaries, but you still struggle to hold them. You can even be clear on what you want to say, and still find yourself saying yes, staying quiet, or over-explaining until your boundary ultimately disappears. If that’s you, it’s probably not because you don’t have the right words. Most of the
You’re smart and capable, but you still find yourself seeking reassurance before you make decisions, even minor ones. Maybe you call it being responsible, getting input, or “just making sure.” The thing is, asking for perspective and input can be wise. The issue isn’t asking once or a handful of times. The issue is when
What comes to mind when you hear the phrase, “self-leadership reset?” “Reset” can sound like starting over from scratch. You imagine wiping the slate clean, reinventing your routines, and finally becoming a different person. That picture can feel exciting for a moment, then quickly overwhelming. In reality, healthy resets are quieter. They aren’t punishment for
You might move through your day mostly fine, feeling like you have plenty of capacity to take on the day. Then, you suddenly feel like your reactions are bigger than what the moment calls for. If you have a history of trauma or long-term stress, this can feel discouraging. Maybe you’ve already done therapy, or